How to Build Up Your Confidence in Social Situations

It’s normal to be anxious when you’re in a social setting. In fact, most people tend to get at least a little anxious during situations and events where it’s necessary to have to interact with those around you.

However, there’s good news – you can overcome this with the right outlook and practice. Here’s how you can look and feel more confident whenever you find yourself in any social situation:

1. Strike a pose! To be confident in mind, you also have to be confident in your body, and this all starts with your body language.

Your posturing and hand gestures also communicate a particular message to other people that you need to be aware of, since you might end up saying the wrong thing subconsciously.

Slouching or looking at the ground is one thing can make you seem uninterested and hard to approach, while standing straight would reflect the opposite. Remember to do this every now and then by pushing your shoulders back if you catch yourself slouching.

2. Pay attention to your voice… or more specifically, pay attention to how you sound. Sounding friendly or gentle can go a long way especially when you find that you’re in a bind. It also makes other people around you feel at ease.

The best tip to improve your tone is to just practice talking to yourself in front of a mirror, and pay attention not just to what you say, but how you say it.

3. Be all ears! Actively listen to the people you’re having a conversation with. Listening is just as important as talking when it comes to making fun and meaningful interactions with people in any social setting.

For instance, while you don’t have to stare at them the whole time, you do need to maintain and establish eye contact. This lets the other person know that your full attention is on them.

4. Smile! This reinforces the thought in your mind that says you’re enjoying yourself, and when you do this, other people can see that you’re interested.

This is one thing you don’t have to fake if you’re really not feeling happy. However, sometimes the best solution to the problem is to simply put on a happy face. This can lighten up your mood a little bit, and it also allows other people to respond more positively to you.

The best way you can boost your confidence and not feel self-conscious is through actively paying attention to other people instead of yourself. The more you do pay attention to other people, the lesser you pay attention to yourself, and the less self-conscious you’ll be.

Socializing takes time to improve, and just like any other skill, it’s something you need to actively work on. To do that, just expose yourself more often.

(Disclaimer: this list is compiled in no particular order.)

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