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Things About Your Relationship Should Never Post Online

Don’t make your social media account your relationship page, since not everyone is a fan of it. Sure, it’s nice when other people admire your relationship and consider it as goals. If you plan to be just seen like that, however, then you’re in a relationship for a rather weird reason.

There’s a reason why researchers often say that couples who rarely post about their relationship online are a lot happier than those who do. While it depends and doesn’t totally apply to everyone, there are just a few things that are best kept offline.

Arguments and Problems

If there’s one thing you should never post on any of your social media accounts, it’d be your arguments. If you really need to let some air out, talk to your friends.

Broadcasting your fight online will only make things worse, since some people might chime in on your arguments thinking that they can help. Remember, arguments and problems are bound to happen in a relationship, and you’re the only ones who can solve it – not anyone else.

Intimate Photos

Kissing or intimate photos is a big no-no when it comes to social media. Photos like that shouldn’t be seen by everyone, since it’s a private moment between you two. Also, you can never be sure that your Facebook friends or Twitter followers would love to see a photo of you and your beau doing some torrid kissing.

Details About Your Date

Your relationship is not a drama series, which means you don’t need to broadcast all the details about your date. We’re not saying you can’t post a photo or two about it, just refrain from posting everything. Remember, your date should just be between the two of you.

Personal Details About Your Beau

We understand that you’re so in love with your significant other, and that you want everyone to know just how amazing he is. However, it’s better if your friends find out why you see him that way on their own, rather than posting the tiniest about your partner online.

Things He Wouldn’t Want You to Post

It’s never a bad idea to ask your partner’s permission first before posting anything about your relationship online – even more so if you’re planning on posting something about him. Perhaps you’ll be posting something he doesn’t want everyone to know. If so, respect his decision. Insisting on posting such things will not only start a fight between you two, it could also end up breaking some limits in your relationship.

We understand that you just want everyone to know how proud you are of your relationship, but posting everything online is just too much. Trust us, it’s a lot sweeter when there are moments that only you two know. It’s like having your own world, and that’s what will make your relationship happier.

Things You Shouldn’t Say to Your Spouse

Don’t you wish you could take back the hurtful words you’ve said to your spouse? There are things better left unsaid because they’re not easy to take back, especially after a nasty fight with your partner. While it might not be easy to avoid hurting the feelings of your spouse, you should try to remember not to blurt out the following statements.

“It’s not my problem.”

It is your problem, too, because you’re partners. You vowed to support each other for the rest of your life, so you should help each other out when there is a problem.

“Maybe we should part ways.”

You might regret threatening to leave your spouse, because it could cause doubt on his/her part about your marriage commitment. Testing to see how your partner would react to the threat is unproductive and hurtful.

“You’re lying.”

Regardless if your partner is lying or not, throwing accusations without trying to talk about the situation first will not help solve problems. Ask questions and listen before you react, because you don’t want to be accused of a liar yourself before you were even given a chance to explain.

“You’re overreacting.”

Telling your partner to stop being so sensitive is insensitive. Maybe he/she has a right to overreact because you’re not taking the problem seriously or you’re choosing to ignore him/her. It’s the same as the statement “Calm down!” and usually has the opposite effect, because it’s like telling your partner that his/her feelings aren’t valid or worth discussing.

“If you really love me…”

You shouldn’t bully your partner in doing something for you to prove his/her love. That’s not how marriage is supposed to work. Use a different tactic to address your needs instead of being confrontational about it.

“Some partner you are.”

You’re telling your partner that your needs and feelings are more important than his/hers. What if you heard the same statement from your partner? Do you want to feel like you’re never going to be good enough for him/her?

“You never…”

Comparing your partner to other people or your relationship to the things you see in movies and television will cause a lot of problems. Your partner isn’t a clay you’re supposed to mold to fit your idea of a relationship. You should ask yourself if you’re also lacking the same qualities you’re demanding from him/her.

“You always…”

The effect of this opening phrase is the same as when you begin with “You never…” This will put your partner on the defensive because you’re already accusing him/her. If there is a problem that you need to discuss, don’t start with accusations when approaching the subject.

5 Reasons Why Blunt People Are Great Friends

Sometimes we find blunt people intimidating and scary. We try hard to interact less with this kind of people because we fear getting into a confrontation with them. The truth is, we all are blunt in our own ways. Some of us just feel the need to conceal this while blunt people tell it like it is.

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Contrary to what people may believe, blunt people are great friends. They are not obsessed with how other people perceive them and they remain painfully honest to everybody, including their friends and family.

Here are other reasons why you’ll be glad to be friends with someone blunt.

 

No flattery needed.

Blunt people are the best people to run to for advice. They are will honestly tell you things the way they see it. They do not flatter and sugarcoat matters in order to not hurt your feelings. For them, it is better to be honest and hurt a person than sugarcoating everything and continue letting the person act foolishly.

 

Blunt people are unafraid.

Painfully blunt people are bold. Because they hold such a high importance for the truth, they fear no one. As their friend, these are qualities you want to have for yourself. If you have a friend like this in your life, you will be inspired to have strength and confidence.

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They do not want to sabotage your friendship.

One thing that can ruin a friendship are secrets hidden from each other. Having a blunt person for a friend, you need not worry about this because they are not devious individuals. In order to not hurt the friendship you have, they will be really honest with you, even if it means hurting your feelings at times.

 

They are quick to admit their mistakes.

A blunt person uphold being true to one’s self and to others. They are quick to acknowledge that they are in the wrong and consequently, apologize that they hurt you. Not every friend you have possesses this quality. With someone like this on your side, there will be room for more harmonious relationships.

 

They uphold what is right.

Blunt people have a high moral compass. They hate it when people neglect to think about what is bad and what is good. Having a friend with a high level of morals will not let anything cloud your judgment and influence you to do something bad.

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